Love Where You Are
Written by Kate • August 22, 2010 •
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I’ve read so much about how it’s best if we can be happy about where we are, even though we’re not in our perfect job, or if we’re drowning in debt, or dealing with a serious health issue, or any of the millions of things that normally choke us and make us feel unhappy. These things make us feel so unhappy right now, in this moment, because life in this moment is NOT GOING WELL [yelling for emphasis on how it feels at times like these].
I’ve been in this place more times than I’d care to admit. Overweight, in debt, hating my job, I had them all. So I have often wondered how on earth we’re supposed to be happy or grateful about where we are. This attitude was really beyond me in the panic and the fear I felt with abundance of lack I was encountering. Boy, was there lack! Not enough money and my job is so very much unfulfilling and not where I want to be.
Despite my situation, I was able to put in place then many of things that make me grateful and happy now. I moved into a lovely home. I have space, quiet, and country surrounding me on a daily basis. I can see the stars and moon each night as I enjoy my surroundings [well, when it’s a starry or moon filled night. Otherwise I enjoy the night sky!] I have erased most of my debt and see the way forward to a near future when I will be debt free. How wonderful!
And so here I am, still with all my remaining issues, especially about my job. But somehow in the past several weeks I’ve been able turn my perception around about my job so that I’m truly grateful for it and if not happy with it, I can see now that it is exactly what I asked for at the time- read that again – it is everything I requested it to be-; stable, well-paying, not something I’m wrapped up in so I walk away each night and leave the office at the office, and with enough time that allows me to figure the what it is I want to do with my life,  to see  the way forward. So even though I’m in the exact same job I’ve been in for so long that literally at times made me despair of myself, my future, and my ability to be happy, I am truly grateful for my job. I’m not pretending to be happy about it because it doesn’t make me happy. But by letting go of the hate, despair, and total 100% resistance to what is, I find myself with a lighter step, an outlook that allows for deep gratitude and therefore great peace, and I find myself now intending outcomes from that same place, which is of gratitude, more peace, and a lot of acceptance. It’s been a lovely change and one that I wish for you all.
I was able to find gratitude and acceptance of my job by listing the positive things about my jobs. My first attempt at this was essentially a bust but another attempt elicited a few things, like an income and new friends. Further attempts at finding the positive made me aware that this job was exactly what I asked for at the time. So how could I not accept it and be grateful for this job that it showed up when I was asking for it, even if I didn’t know at the time what the effects of asking for this would entail. I certainly can manifest my desires!
So if you’re in that spot, where you could drown in the despair of one more day of getting up and going to that job, that it and life are nearly intolerable, consider this. You have some choices. The first is that you can quit. Just walk away. The second is that you can stop resisting that you have brought this job in your life. You can get to a place where you have some peace, some acceptance of what is. It’s best to begin to manifest or intend new outcomes from this place rather than from despair.  By sitting with myself and honestly listing out the things that I like or at least find good about my job has gotten me here, and it’s a place I hope you can get to too.
So start small. What are the things you love about the job you’re trying to leave? Can you come up with 1 thing?  That’s a great start for today. And tomorrow, can you come up 3 things? And next week, how about 10? Try it today and see if it brings you any change in mindset, or additional clarity.
I think you’ll find that by listing out and focusing on these positive aspects of your job, you’ll find a lightness in your heart and as resistance slips away, you can get to the place where you want to be; grateful, at peace, free of resistance.